What if your child said he was gay?
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Having homosexual children does raise a bunch of issues, though. What about friends? Obviously, having little Janey sleep over at Sarah's house is no problem in a standard situation. But what if Janey has confessed to her parents that she has a desire to munch rugs? Is Jordan still allowed to go camping with his friends in the woods? Or do you insist that he hang around with the gender that he's not attracted to?
And then what's going to happen when guys pretend to be gay so that they can hang around freely with women, knowing that their parents aren't concerned about the door locked and the music turned up, thinking that Bruce wants it in the caboose and doesn't care about the cooch?
A brave new world...
And then what's going to happen when guys pretend to be gay so that they can hang around freely with women, knowing that their parents aren't concerned about the door locked and the music turned up, thinking that Bruce wants it in the caboose and doesn't care about the cooch?
A brave new world...
i disagree.no disrespect
if i heard someone calling my son a dicksucker,then my son deserves it cuz its true,thats what he does.if he wants to be gay then he has to deal with these things.im not going to do it for him.
you have to be harsh with your kids. if they do something wrong,show them you mean business. make them fear you. you cant say everything is ok.
would you want them when they reach your height to tell you to shut your mouth,or to sit ur old ass down,beat you, or tell you nothing is your business.you cant spoil them like that when they're small.they do something wrong, smack em. they do it again,smack em harder until they learn not to fuck with you.
if i heard someone calling my son a dicksucker,then my son deserves it cuz its true,thats what he does.if he wants to be gay then he has to deal with these things.im not going to do it for him.
you have to be harsh with your kids. if they do something wrong,show them you mean business. make them fear you. you cant say everything is ok.
would you want them when they reach your height to tell you to shut your mouth,or to sit ur old ass down,beat you, or tell you nothing is your business.you cant spoil them like that when they're small.they do something wrong, smack em. they do it again,smack em harder until they learn not to fuck with you.
went wrong? there's nothing you could do wrong to turn your child gay.
wtf, some of you guys are so stupid. If the kid is your own flesh and blood what are you gonna do? disown them? so what if he's gay he is still your child, I dunno how some of you think but my family come before anything in this world because they are my flesh and blood.
wtf, some of you guys are so stupid. If the kid is your own flesh and blood what are you gonna do? disown them? so what if he's gay he is still your child, I dunno how some of you think but my family come before anything in this world because they are my flesh and blood.
Depends on the kid. Being homosexual doesn't make you a nymphomaniac. If the kid is responsible, I'd trust them not to let their sexual urges get the better of them.
I don't think any kid would go through the drama of coming out to their parents just to improve their chances of sex. "By the way dad, I'm not really gay, I was just trying to get some".
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I don't think any kid would go through the drama of coming out to their parents just to improve their chances of sex. "By the way dad, I'm not really gay, I was just trying to get some".
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:thumb: i agree with you emma, at the end he's your child, and if you loved him while he was little, there's no reason to stop doing it if as a teen he tells you he's gay.
My best friend is gay and I met him when we were 10 years old, so I watched all the situation while it was developing. When he was 16 he talked with his mom about it and everything was ok, although she was very worried about what his life was gonna be like in the future. But when he told his dad, he went crazy, and I understand him: my friend was his only son, so he expected him to get married, have children, become an accountant, etc, and now he has a boyfriend and he's studying to become a fashion designer
But in the end, his parents decided to talk openly about it and they agreed that they loved his son, and because of that they should respect his decision and give him all their support. And that was also the case with all the gay people I know. Btw, I may sound like I know a lot about it homosexuals but that DOESN'T mean I'm gay myself: when I was trying to show my friend that I had no problem with him being gay, I met a lot of people, I even went to a gay club and my perents never knew about it,
but this thread is not about that!
Of course I don't have children yet, so I know nothing about how to raise a child, but from what I've talked to my friend (we spent a lot of time talking about this) and sometimes even with his mom, I'd say that if you love your son you won't stop loving him for something like this, or stop talking to him; you may not approve his "lifestyle", but in the end he's your own blood. Every parent knows deeply in his heart that his child is gay since he is very little, so they are prepared to accept it. Obviously, if my child told me he was gay I'd be worried about him, he could meet people that may have a negative influence on him, or have aids, but you know somthing? I'd worry about that too if my child was hetero. I know it wouldn't be easy, but after some time I'd accept it, like everything
My best friend is gay and I met him when we were 10 years old, so I watched all the situation while it was developing. When he was 16 he talked with his mom about it and everything was ok, although she was very worried about what his life was gonna be like in the future. But when he told his dad, he went crazy, and I understand him: my friend was his only son, so he expected him to get married, have children, become an accountant, etc, and now he has a boyfriend and he's studying to become a fashion designer
But in the end, his parents decided to talk openly about it and they agreed that they loved his son, and because of that they should respect his decision and give him all their support. And that was also the case with all the gay people I know. Btw, I may sound like I know a lot about it homosexuals but that DOESN'T mean I'm gay myself: when I was trying to show my friend that I had no problem with him being gay, I met a lot of people, I even went to a gay club and my perents never knew about it,
but this thread is not about that!Of course I don't have children yet, so I know nothing about how to raise a child, but from what I've talked to my friend (we spent a lot of time talking about this) and sometimes even with his mom, I'd say that if you love your son you won't stop loving him for something like this, or stop talking to him; you may not approve his "lifestyle", but in the end he's your own blood. Every parent knows deeply in his heart that his child is gay since he is very little, so they are prepared to accept it. Obviously, if my child told me he was gay I'd be worried about him, he could meet people that may have a negative influence on him, or have aids, but you know somthing? I'd worry about that too if my child was hetero. I know it wouldn't be easy, but after some time I'd accept it, like everything
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no disrespect taken
"if i heard someone calling my son a dicksucker,then my son deserves it cuz its true,thats what he does.if he wants to be gay then he has to deal with these things.im not going to do it for him."
i agree with you, it is his choice and he has to live with that choice (although i think it is something you are born as, not a choice) but at the same time, if my kid is 4 and someone in the grocery store tells him to get the fuck out of their way, i will put that person in their place, so if he is 16 and someone calls him a cocksucker, i will also step in and say something
"you have to be harsh with your kids. if they do something wrong,show them you mean business. make them fear you. you cant say everything is ok."
my kids do not fear me, the respect me, they know that i am the dad, plain and simple...my kids no right from wrong, and my kids no if they do wrong they will be in trouble, they are not pampered at home and i am not afraid to talk to them as adults and let them know what i feel because that is the only way they will learn.
"would you want them when they reach your height to tell you to shut your mouth,or to sit ur old ass down,beat you, or tell you nothing is your business.you cant spoil them like that when they're small.they do something wrong, smack em. they do it again,smack em harder until they learn not to fuck with you."
all i can say to this is, my dad never laid a hand on me, but at the same time i knew he brought me into the world and he could easily take me out...my kids get spanked when they do wrong, and they get it harder if they do it again, but kids today do not care about getting spanked, but let me threaten to take the gameboy for a week, or the playstation for a week and they listen
no disrespect taken
"if i heard someone calling my son a dicksucker,then my son deserves it cuz its true,thats what he does.if he wants to be gay then he has to deal with these things.im not going to do it for him."
i agree with you, it is his choice and he has to live with that choice (although i think it is something you are born as, not a choice) but at the same time, if my kid is 4 and someone in the grocery store tells him to get the fuck out of their way, i will put that person in their place, so if he is 16 and someone calls him a cocksucker, i will also step in and say something
"you have to be harsh with your kids. if they do something wrong,show them you mean business. make them fear you. you cant say everything is ok."
my kids do not fear me, the respect me, they know that i am the dad, plain and simple...my kids no right from wrong, and my kids no if they do wrong they will be in trouble, they are not pampered at home and i am not afraid to talk to them as adults and let them know what i feel because that is the only way they will learn.
"would you want them when they reach your height to tell you to shut your mouth,or to sit ur old ass down,beat you, or tell you nothing is your business.you cant spoil them like that when they're small.they do something wrong, smack em. they do it again,smack em harder until they learn not to fuck with you."
all i can say to this is, my dad never laid a hand on me, but at the same time i knew he brought me into the world and he could easily take me out...my kids get spanked when they do wrong, and they get it harder if they do it again, but kids today do not care about getting spanked, but let me threaten to take the gameboy for a week, or the playstation for a week and they listen
if she does it then she deserves to be called that. i teach my kids that if they do something wrong then they need to take full responsibility for it. if its true,my kid will know it.if its not true,then my kid will know it too.i make them as trustworthy as possible with me,so if something is up,they tell me the truth.if they dont tell me the truth and i find out,then that trust is gone and its gonna take a hell of alot of time for me to begin trusting them.
^dude you gotta stop thinking like "My child has to fight for my trust" and concentrate on "My child has to be able to trust me at all times". If you want to trust your child your child has to know that they can trust you at all times. But by just saying things like "you have to be harsh with your kids. if they do something wrong,show them you mean business. make them fear you. you cant say everything is ok." all your doing is distancing you child from you.
I'm not telling you how to be a father to your child, i'm just telling you this from a childs perspective. My parents were exactly like that, and now i don't tell them anything, and i have grown so distant from my family. Sure, i love them, and they love me... but i don't speak to them (from the heart, about my emotions or nothing), and they are mostly in the dark. I went into drugs to spite them, i ran away countless times, i did everything to avoid them. I love my family to death, but they are my family, they're not my friends. And parents need to be a childs friend as well.
I'm not telling you how to be a father to your child, i'm just telling you this from a childs perspective. My parents were exactly like that, and now i don't tell them anything, and i have grown so distant from my family. Sure, i love them, and they love me... but i don't speak to them (from the heart, about my emotions or nothing), and they are mostly in the dark. I went into drugs to spite them, i ran away countless times, i did everything to avoid them. I love my family to death, but they are my family, they're not my friends. And parents need to be a childs friend as well.